Strangers in the night

Lepers or child molesters? No rather serial killers and drug smugglers that use children for carting the drugs? Nope. People living in a domestic discipline relationship. They are the ones frowned upon by the community. they are the ones talked about when friends meet for a braai, they get discussed and analysed like lab rats.
Why does it happen? Why be bothered with other peoples lives? Questions asked like "Why do you do it?" and " Don't you feel like a woman abuser?"
My wife and I , without any mental disturbances or other defects, decided on the domestic discipline relationship together, knowing the pro's and con's for both parties involved. We did our research and had our discussions about the type of relationship.
Should`nt we be discussing the 'normal' relationships with disgust. I mean 99.9% of the relationships in the known world just follow the norm set out by some idealistic scene from one of the soapies on TV or a romantic novel. Our brains get dictated by society on what constitutes a happy family.
99.9% of the people in relationships get told by society what to do in a relationship. The latest trend is that the wife becomes the head of the household because society wants it that way. husbands get pictured as fat ass slobs who sit in front of the television all day and can do nothing but drink beer and get pissed.
Our children see this and it gets to be the standard. sorry the pun but; 'monkey see, monkey do'
Divorcing is the newest trend in our society. I feel like a leper when I get together with friends and I am the only one that has not been divorced at least once. The out cast. the freak.
Come on people of the society, the 'norm' setters, the people with the happy normal 2nd relationships. Look at me and think why did I choose to be in this type of relationship.
I chose dd for the sole reason to save my marriage. I was looking for something that wasn't the norm. I really loved my beautiful wife and didn`t want to be the same as my friends and get a divorce as the norm entitles me to do.
"Yes but how can hitting your wife constitute love?" I don't hit my wife. I dont hit my children. I give them a spanking. Ok before you tear apart my use of the two words let me explain.
Hitting in my meaning is what you do with a hammer. or hitting the wall. or hitting the guy that you caught stealing your car. Hitting is a forceful action and can arise out of anger or frustration.
Spanking to me is a action done on the buttocks of either my children or wife. It is an action derived out of love for them. It is a tool that I use to correct improper or incorrect actions in my family. Even the dog gets a spanking when needed to correct an action. I will not and have never spanked any one in my family on any other part of their body just for the record. I don't get any sadistic kick out of a spanking.
But why not do the corner time or the "lets talk about what you done wrong" thing. it does not work. Is it not said in the science world that for every action there is a re-action? Telling my girl to stand in the corner for 5 minutes does not have any effect on her. She will get out of corner time and just do the same thing again. doing the " why did you do it love?" with my dearest wife will get you the ' I don't know but I will surely do it again look" whilst she gives you the longest explanation for doing the deed.
I actually once asked my children what method of punishment they think works the best for them and there was an 100% vote for spanking. Why does a child take a spanking above corner time? becaus it hurts but it gives them a sence of assurance. they think that if daddy can get it in his hart to spank me how mutch more can he get in his hart to love me.
Why is my relationship with my wife peaking everyday. It is as if we are in love more and more everyday.
I tel you why. The natural order of our household has been restored to what nature wanted it to be. Daddy is the head of the household and then comes Mommy and then the children. Unfortunately for the dog. Well hshe is at the bottom of the ranking in the household.This does not mean that by any chance that I love my kids less than i love my wife.
I think this is all that i wanted to say for now to the ' normal ' people in the 'normal' relationships that find the time and intrest in our dd relationships.
And by the way. Something to ponder about. How many marriges based on dd end in divorce.